We hear many people are attempting suicide nowdays. The most stories behind this proceed like that
I was a good student in my high-school, I secured good in entrance test too. I had girlfriend/boyfriend in college, after 2 year we broke up.Now there is nothing left for me, I am alone. Nobody care for me then why should I live in this wicked world.
My parents loves my brother/sister more than me. Even my parents doesn’t care me then who on this earth will come for me. I won’t be anymore the load for earth, I have a far better place over there.Getting involving in relation is also a powerful solution of loneliness,when having a loving partner is that each single aspect of your life is shared with this partner so the feeling of loneliness disappears. The draw back to this is that you cannot control the time it happens as there are lots of other variables involved, however its pretty beneficial to know what exactly makes someone fall in love so that you can use this information to your side. Involving in some kind of project helps to overcome loneliness.Going to different places, changing daily routine meeting new people also are way of removing feeling of loneliness.
Feeling lonely or loneliness is the most harder feeling we experience.It seems to affect people of any race, any age, regardless of religion, ethnicity, experience. Whether you are Ph.D. or illiterate, rich or poor you are equally vulnerable to it. Loneliness is a very powerful emotion. It can lead to depression, illness, even suicide. Although it may often hit the old, sick or handicapped people, it is very common among young people too. We may have lots of friends or know lots of people but still feel that we are isolated, alone and nobody is for us.
The main cause of loneliness is lack of intimacy.We may know lots of people and we may have lots of friends but most of the relations are superficial.So going to deep and sharing inner emotions is not possible to those.
A lack of confidence in yourself can repel you from social life. It can leave you reluctant to meet new people made you worried about how they’ll react.
In many country modern culture emphasize the individual person that put the pressure to be a “self contained”. Many more young people live alone away from family and friends and the force compelling to survive may not provide enough time for making friend and intimacy. The TV, films, books made the sexual or romantic relation is the only meaningful relation, which is not need to be true but we believe on it. If we donot have such relation we feel it as our failure.
Surprisingly, it is not only the quiet, shy, people, who may feel loneliness.The extrovert one can also suffer from loneliness. They may seem to have lots of friends, but inside they are hurting.
There are some positive points of loneliness too.The strongest trees are those that grow alone. The greatest dreams are those conceived alone. God can speak to you only when you are alone. Your purpose and life’s meaning will be revealed to you only when you are alone.
To overcome loneliness we have to determine the reason or source of why you are feeling lonely. Bearing emotional honesty and trying to be more open with your friends, telling them about your fears and worries instead of running the usual superficial conversations help to get rid of it some more.